Last week week I spoke about love and relationships to inspire you to think about how powerful our heart is and to stay open!
This week I am returning from a week long retreat in Tulum, Mexico. Thanks to my dear friend Linda who told me about this special sacred space!!
Indeed, the time away in sweet retreat allowed me to connect more fully to my heart and all that I want, need, and desire at this stage of my life. Many of us don't take/make the time to get away and make this deep heart connection. To me, going on retreat is one of the most valuable and high yielding investments we make in our self.
Having said this, for the last several years I've been searching for a beautiful location to host a sweet retreat. My intention is to provide people the opportunity to release, relax, and renew...to experience a re-birth of sorts. I wanted a place that allows for both quiet time with our self and the chance to interact with like minded people. A place that has delicious nourishing food, a beautiful beach and the space for me to lead yoga, meditation, and shamanic rituals, to name a few.
I am thrilled to share I found the place in Tulum (pictured above)!
I will be hosting the Tulum retreat Tuesday, Oct 31st - Sunday, Nov 5th, 2017.
Note: If the above dates do not work for many, I may opt for
Tuesday, Oct 24th - Sunday, Oct 29th. More details to follow in the next week.
If you think you might be interested, please email me here.
And please forward to friends so I will include them in forthcoming details!!
In the meantime, don't wait for Tulum to go on a retreat!
Simply shutting off your computer and phone for 1/2 a day or even the entire day is a powerful practice. I do this once per month. I alert the important people in my life that I will not be available for the time frame I have decided. I drive out to a beach near me and take only a journal. I try to have as much silence as possible- meaning, I don't talk to people and often won't even listen to music. I value the silence. It's a wonderful practice.
Until Tulum...Wishing you a Day of Sweet Retreat,
The Heart Knows
Recently I shared a simple reminder about LOVE...LOVE is about sharing not bearing.
All of this talk about love and relationships lately reminds me of something I wrote about a few years ago that I feel is worth sharing again. My intention is to inspire you to think about how powerful our heart is and to stay open.
The following is from, "The Secret Teachings of Plants" by Stephen Buhner about training ourselves to use our heart as an organ of perception (instead of the mind) in order to cultivate abundant health, relationships...well being.
On page 99 a quote describing the state of heart coherence by Rollin McCraty says: "It is the rhythm of the heart that sets the beat for the entire system. The heart's rhythmic beat influences brain processes that control the autonomic nervous system, cognitive function and emotions. Coherence is the harmonious cooperation, and order among the subsystems of a larger system that allows for the emergence of more complex functions. It is used to describe more ordered mental and emotional processes as well as more ordered and harmonious interactions among various physiological systems. It embraces many other terms used to describe specific functional modes, such as synchronization, entrainment, and resonance".
This line speaks to how I wish to live my life: deeply, with all of my internal systems connected and reflecting my outer world.
For me, heart coherence is a state of being where what I think, say, and do are the same. In shamanism we call this Ayni.
The result of living this way? Inner Peace. Freedom.
In another great book, "Untethered Soul" written by Michael Singer, he says never let the heart close, no matter what.
In my experience of life, often FEAR is what gets in the way of staying open, staying free, staying connected, coherent. When I remember, as Singer also states... That inner disturbances will not destroy me, that I CAN handle my feelings...that I CAN stay in this place of coherence even when it's hard -- is a testament to the strength of my heart. I realize now, after much resistance and then surrender....that not only can I function in the world when discomfort arises... I can ALSO choose to be happy at the same time.
What a well earned gift!
As I continue to practice ALLOWING my heart to open more fully to ALL of life, I see my heart as a rose petal blooming. As my heart opens more fully, my experience becomes more beautiful, more loving, more connected. FREE.
What can shake me? Not much... It's when my path, my practice and the fruit are all the same. All systems connected and working with one another. Coherence.
Easy, no? Worth it? Absolutely! I support you!
Wishing you all the beauty an open heart brings.
What is it?
Shamanism is considered to be one of the most ancient forms of healing practiced by humans worldwide.
Why try it?
When greeted with clear intention and motivation for shift, shamanism is a powerful approach to self-discovery and deep transformation that will leave you feeling empowered.
Who will benefit from it?
Shamanic energy sessions are powerful for assisting clients with big life changes such as: job transition, marriage & divorce, finding love, death & grief, finding & manifesting one’s passion and life calling, developing spiritually, improving health.
How is this different from other modes of healing?
One of the things that make Shamanic Energy healing unique is that it gets to the “root” of the issue and allows healing to happen faster and often without all the “drama”.
Take this example: A client comes to me expressing she wants to find a loving partnership. She explains that her history of relationships has led her to be with partners who aren’t emotionally available and don’t treat her well. She has had her heart broken many times, and is beginning to feel like there is nobody “out there” who will love and respect her in the way her heart desires. She also shares with me that she is afraid to put herself out there and has issues trusting. And yet, her desire to find companionship and love is strong enough to have a shamanic session with me. She is making a last ditch effort to uncover what else might be getting in the way of manifesting her heart’s desire.
During our shamanic session together, we uncover there is an energetic block that relates back to her childhood. She recalls many instances as a young child when she felt abandoned by her parents. She was often put in situations that were simply “too much” for any child to handle. The situations ranged from being left alone while her parents went out partying for long periods of time to not feeling safe/being allowed to express her feelings. Over time, these experiences of abandonment chipped away at her self-esteem, sense of self- worth and also affected her ability to trust. We discovered that as an adult, this pattern of abandonment played out in her relationships. She attracted partners into her life who weren’t emotionally available and didn’t respect her. She was simply re-enacting her childhood. While it was unhealthy, it was familiar. And often, familiar, even if unhealthy, feels “safe”.
Once we started to clear the energetic blocks and shed light on old patterns, energy and space freed up to charter a new path and heal. She started to let go of the past and view her experiences as opportunities for learning and growth. She made the choice and commitment to do the inner work required for her to start trusting herself. We worked together on helping her create her own sense of safety and self -worth. As we continued our work together, she began to feel better about herself, and her energetic vibration increased. As her vibration increased, she began attracting people into her life who were vibrating at that same level of energy. It’s the law of the universe my friends — like attracts like. Our outer world is simply a mirror- a reflection – of what we have going on inside. This is one reason why shamanic energy healing is so powerful.
If you are ready for an empowered transformation and to welcome your heart’s desire, contact me about a shamanic session. I offer in person and phone sessions.
You have one precious life and YOU DESERVE THE BEST.
And yes, you can have what you want — when you choose to wake up, get support, and do the work.
It’s my privilege to support and love you through it, as my teachers have done for me over the years.
Last week I shared 3 ways to deal with the drama that often comes when we are in discomfort/struggle.
In honor of Valentine's Day, this week I want to share with you a simple reminder I have learned and continue to re-learn about LOVE.
Truth: sometimes love hurts!! Love hurts when the people we love are dealing with their own struggles and we want to fix them, rescue them, wish it were different for them...make it better for them. When we behave this way, we end up taking on their pain and we bear their burden. In the end, we get tired and even resentful. The result is we act like anything but love. At the extreme, the relationship takes on death of some sort by becoming a drain on our life force energy or ending completely.
What to do?
Consider all of your love relationships- family, friends, lovers...
Where are you bearing the burden for a loved one?
If this is true for you, consider how instead of bearing the burden you may share the burden.
By sharing I mean you are there for them by listening with non-judgment, compassion and unconditional love. You support them. Yet you recognize the person must accept their "stuff" as their own. They must take responsibility and "do their inner work".
When you bear the burden for a loved one, you are preventing them from taking their own journey to healing. And you are also diverting precious energy away from your own healing. When you share the burden, space and energy is freed up to be in true partnership with the other thus allowing for mutual support = healthy, fulfilling, conscious relationships.
As you practice shrugging off bearing the burdens of loved ones, you will realize the only types of relationships that truly feed your soul are those in which the burden is shared. Be gentle with yourself in this process. I support you!!
"To love someone gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage." - Lao Tzu
Last week I shared that we all have something we struggle with, and how we choose to see the struggle- as a curse or blessing - impacts our ability to overcome. By seeing our struggles as blessings, we are able to feel more comfortable in the discomfort of life and move forward.
This week I want to share 3 ways to deal with the drama that often comes when we are in discomfort/struggle. In my experience, when discomfort arises bringing with it a multitude of emotions, many of us resist. We search our mind for answers and solutions, anything to help the emotions go away! Yet, the paradox remains- no amount of thinking or analyzing will make us feel better.
Why? Because the whole point is to feel! We need to feel the emotions and recognize they are simply energy. When we resist our feelings, we create more drama for our self and those around us.
What can we do? We need to feel our feelings and then move/shift/release the energy. When we move/shift/release the energy, our emotions become more manageable and we are less likely to get stuck in the drama.
My top 3 ways to move/shift/release energy are:
1. Get Moving, Preferably Outside - We are physical beings. The fastest way to move energy is to move our body. Walk, skip, bike, it doesn't matter. We literally need to move the emotional energy through our body.
2. Get a Mentor - Being able to process how you are feeling with someone who is able to be objective and also teach you skills to navigate is invaluable. Working with a mentor will help you gain perspective and provide a "safe" outlet to release. We are not meant to do "it/life" alone. As I said last week, wisdom is a result of knowledge, intuition and experience. A mentor is someone who has more knowledge and experience than you do. As such, they will be able to support you by adding their wisdom to yours :)
3. Be Still, Reflect and Listen- Find and commit to an on-going practice such as meditation, prayer, or writing that enables you to stop (be still), look (reflect) and listen. As I've said countless times, all change and movement starts with slowing down long enough to cultivate awareness.
You may be asking, which of the above 3 is the "best" way to shift energy? There is no right answer. What I will say is to try all of it. Even better, when you do all 3 in combination, on a regular basis...WOW...No More Drama!!
I am here to support you.