The Heart Knows
Recently I shared a simple reminder about LOVE...LOVE is about sharing not bearing.
All of this talk about love and relationships lately reminds me of something I wrote about a few years ago that I feel is worth sharing again. My intention is to inspire you to think about how powerful our heart is and to stay open.
The following is from, "The Secret Teachings of Plants" by Stephen Buhner about training ourselves to use our heart as an organ of perception (instead of the mind) in order to cultivate abundant health, relationships...well being.
On page 99 a quote describing the state of heart coherence by Rollin McCraty says: "It is the rhythm of the heart that sets the beat for the entire system. The heart's rhythmic beat influences brain processes that control the autonomic nervous system, cognitive function and emotions. Coherence is the harmonious cooperation, and order among the subsystems of a larger system that allows for the emergence of more complex functions. It is used to describe more ordered mental and emotional processes as well as more ordered and harmonious interactions among various physiological systems. It embraces many other terms used to describe specific functional modes, such as synchronization, entrainment, and resonance".
This line speaks to how I wish to live my life: deeply, with all of my internal systems connected and reflecting my outer world.
For me, heart coherence is a state of being where what I think, say, and do are the same. In shamanism we call this Ayni.
The result of living this way? Inner Peace. Freedom.
In another great book, "Untethered Soul" written by Michael Singer, he says never let the heart close, no matter what.
In my experience of life, often FEAR is what gets in the way of staying open, staying free, staying connected, coherent. When I remember, as Singer also states... That inner disturbances will not destroy me, that I CAN handle my feelings...that I CAN stay in this place of coherence even when it's hard -- is a testament to the strength of my heart. I realize now, after much resistance and then surrender....that not only can I function in the world when discomfort arises... I can ALSO choose to be happy at the same time.
What a well earned gift!
As I continue to practice ALLOWING my heart to open more fully to ALL of life, I see my heart as a rose petal blooming. As my heart opens more fully, my experience becomes more beautiful, more loving, more connected. FREE.
What can shake me? Not much... It's when my path, my practice and the fruit are all the same. All systems connected and working with one another. Coherence.
Easy, no? Worth it? Absolutely! I support you!
Wishing you all the beauty an open heart brings.
Last week I invited you to carve out one hour to connect, reflect and redirect.
What did you come up with?
This week the process continues. Perhaps you have gained clarity about what areas you want to focus on. Perhaps not, and you need more time. Awesome!!
In addition to giving you the next steps, I want to share with you that committing to clarity requires courage. Often when we start to "see" what needs to change, it's scary. Let's face it, staying with the familiar is easy. Yet for many of us, not sustainable. There comes a time when we need to face the music and make change.
So, here are the next steps.
1. Review your notes from the reflection exercise.
2. Decide on which area you want to focus on...health, relationship, career/life purpose, money...
3. Commit to taking action to create what you desire. For example, let's say you want to improve your health and well-being by managing your stress. Begin exploring ways you want to do this - yoga class, meditation, exercise, more fun! Whatever you choose, commit to taking one of these actions consistently over the next 30 days. Feel free to be flexible. Maybe you try yoga and it's not for you. Stay open, explore and have fun!!
If you want to share or need support, please email me.
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Last week Kamesh spoke about what it means to have abundant health, practice radical self care and enjoy the awesome adventure of life! Did you do the practice? What did you notice?
This week I invite you to continue the process by daring to dream.
Why? In my experience of life, there are occasions when it would seem so logical to stay where we are, when we are unhappy. The truth is, we are meant for so much more.
When we begin to understand that it is fear of: loss, the unknown, what others may think or say, etc that keeps us stuck, we are at a critical choice point. We either choose to take responsibility for the direction our life, or not. If we don't take responsibility, fear will control our life and keep us unhappy. If however, we choose to take responsibility for our life, we admit we have had enough. We commit to take control back by learning from our fears. Learning fuels us and we begin to allow ourselves to dream.
At this stage of my life, there is simply no other way for me to live. As many of you know, I have dedicated my life to helping others THRIVE. That's my medicine, my life purpose, why I am here!! This wisdom is what keeps me on the path, even when I want so badly to be asleep and not feel. I bet some of you are nodding yes? Great, let us stick together please!
It's funny really. Over the years people have watched me Reclaim Joy. Some have said, "You are lucky/special/old soul/wise". While it is well meaning, thank you, it agitates me. Guess what? I am not! I am dedicated to living my truth. That truth includes the reality that we teach what we most need to learn. I am not lucky. I am teaching and learning, like you.
Here's what I will say. When you dare to dream, you open yourself to new possibility. With support, you stay the on the path. When you get to the end of your life, you will look back, and have no regrets. To me, this is the gift of being alive. And everyday is a new day to begin again. No matter what your age or stage.
At the Sanctuary I co-founded Our Mission is to provide the space for all beings to thrive. Our services, events, staff, and yes, those yummy snacks are all here to support you to be your best.
We are all unique and require different support- pampering with a Massage or Facial; balancing energy with Reiki or Acupuncture; easing the mind with Meditation; connecting with others in a Full Moon Ceremony on Jan 12th. And sometimes, we are at a major crossroads in life and need deeper, more consistent support with private mentoring. Whatever it is, I support you! Feel free to email me with questions or comments.
Last week I invited you to continue the practice of letting go of toxic, negative beliefs about that which you profess to "know" and instead-- to live, love and play in the mystery of life...How did it go?
Now it's time for you to begin creating...manifesting 2017.
Focus on what you wish to create with my Connect, Reflect & Redirect Practice!
Carve out one hour over the next 7 days to Connect, Reflect and Redirect:
First, find a place that nurtures you. It could be sitting up in your bed or at a local coffee shop. Put your phones on "DND" = do not disturb. Take 10-20 breaths and center yourself.
Next, sit quietly and reflect on the past year in the key areas of your life such as: health, relationship, career, life purpose, overall well-being.
As it relates to these areas, ask yourself questions such as:
What am I proud of?
What have I learned?
What am I grateful for?
What was challenging for me?
Where are my growth opportunities?
Write down anything and everything that comes to mind, as it comes. No judgment.
Based on your replies above, consider what you desire in 2017 in each of these areas.
Ask yourself questions such as:
What do I want more of?
What do I want to let go of?
What support will I need?
Write down your replies and choose one area you would like to focus on starting in January.
After you complete above, continue with the next set of steps here.
Gratitude isn't something to celebrate only on Thanksgiving. For many of us, it's how we live, or strive to live.
Being grateful is being joyful! Easy, no? So, I decided to come up with a simple game to help keep me on the path of gratitude.
As I speak about in my book, Reclaiming JOY, how we are being (grateful or not, loving or not...) determines the quality of our doing...and this is how we experience life. It's a big deal!!!
Here's the game:
1. Grab paper and pen (or your cell phone).
2. Set a timer for 5 minutes.
3. Write down as many kind words as possible about yourself that begin with theletter of your first name. (I.e. Stephanie: Still, Silly, Self-Loving). The key is to write words you "know" you are...and even more importantly, write words you wish to become.
4. For the rest of the year, look at this every morning and night. Add to it!
Extra Credit: Share and play this game with a spouse, partner, child, friend, co-worker...etc.