Last week I invited you to explore creating your council, an on-going practice I use to keep me on the positive, play filled, purpose full and prosperous path. Say that 5x fast!
Have you started considering who may already be this for you and what kind of support you receive / want more of? I'd love to know here.
This week I want to talk about the "criteria" for creating your council. Before I do, keep in mind your council will likely be between 5-10 people. Some of these people may be friends, acquaintances, or even paid mentors, coaches, etc. Usually it is not a family member.
You may also decide to be available for someone else's council to offer whatever it is you are gifted at. Usually this is what winds up happening as we commit to the process.
These are the 3 criteria for ALL people on your council:
1. Proven Success:
People who are already having success in the area you want to create/improve. For example, one of the areas I mentioned was physical. If you are looking to improve your physical health, find the person who is already radiating extraordinary physical health. If you are looking to start / improve a business, find the person who has done / is doing it.
People who will help you find your truth: what you want/what gets in the way, no matter how hard, without holding judgment. They are able to do this because presumably they have gone through what you are going through and are now successful. They have been able to reach success because they have overcome similar obstacles and therefore understand, value and appreciate the absolute requirement for non-judgment. This doesn't mean the person will condone negative behavior. They will call you out. That is the point!! However, they will hold up the mirror with compassion, loving-kindness, support and wisdom to empower you.
This is why I don't suggest a family member for your council. It's usually very hard for family to be completely objective. Note this doesn't mean you can't talk to family! It simply means you have people in addition to your family who you reach out and listen to. Maybe you learn to filter what you tell family if it doesn't always serve to divulge all.
You want people on your council who have the time & energy to support you, when you need it. In addition, here's where books and paid mentors/coaches come in handy by giving you the extra boost. For example, maybe you want to develop your spirituality and deepen the connection you have with yourself. Perhaps the person who would be on your council isn't accessible right now for whatever reason, or you don't "yet" have this type of person in your life. Reading a book (see my reading list here) or perhaps hiring a mentor/coach who specializes in this area would be of service to you and keep you moving forward.
Based on the criteria above, start making and/or tweaking your council list. If you have questions, let me know here.
Next week I will share more about how to engage with your council.